Here’s a peek at a convo I had with a close friend after a particularly rough day:
^^I was obviously sheepish about the fact that my chosen method of unwinding, uh, did NOT match up with advice I had given on a recent post.
Then I realized something. I don’t want advice from supposedly “perfect” people. I don’t want anyone who has never DONE anything to tell me what to do! I prefer to observe and learn from imperfect humans who have a shit-ton of experience… AND own up to it.
If you see people you’re SURE have it all together,
- they don’t.
- if they say they do, they’re lying.
For the record:
- I occasionally drink wine in my sweatpants.
- I still get sucked up into a competition mindset, and forget to compliment my fellow humans.
- I have several unmended relationships.
- I am freaking impatient.
- I “should” all over myself and others at times.
- I forget I’m awesome every now and then.
- And… I know this will come as a shock to all of you, but I have been known to over-do it with the peanut butter. 😳
You know what though? ^^I’m ok with all of that. Because I’m a human. I no longer expect perfection from myself. There was a time when I thought I wasn’t doing anything right; therefore I should just hide away. Stay off of social media, avoid friends/family, never put myself out there. Who was I to give advice? I screwed up all the time!
But then I met a personal trainer who admitted he likes Oreos. And a powerful business executive who got teary discussing a personal relationship. And an author who seriously has to bribe herself to sit down and write. And a counselor who is struggling with an eating disorder.
Everybody is working through their own garbage. Nobody has NO garbage. The garbage is actually gold. It’s what teaches us, molds us, GROWS us. And it is nothing to be ashamed of.
Your hairdresser has bad hair days.
Your chef might enjoy Easy Mac.
Your massage therapist might forget to get massages.
We’re all in this together. None of us are better-than. Struggling actually adds to our value as a human, rather than decreasing it. So, keep being human! Keep falling, then getting back up! Own every bit of who you are and what you’ve done. You are worthy and valuable
even when especially when you’re stumbling.
I’m curious, what struggles have YOU gone through that are now useful to you and others?